Section 8
An Original Composition Just for You! Section 8
This music portrays a family culture of entrepreneurial drive. Running to catch up, finding something new, running beyond, and ultimately returning in peace we are
Family
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Our family is a case study.
The case is this. Can we live in a protective bubble of community? We are a culture of drive to be entrepreneurs whose entrepreneurship is to stay related with one another.
A commodity, such as money, power or influence, does not define the leader in our family culture. The best family culture embraces Smart® habits. Smart® habits satisfy innate needs.
It is not until one leaves their own home that the family is enabled by a flat culture to be a flat group. A flat culture has no hierarchy.
The question is this. Will a flat culture permit a protective bubble of community? It will if and only if primary values are elevated as they alone satisfy innate needs. If innate needs are satisfied there is increased motivation and mental health. If innate needs are thwarted there is diminished motivation and wellbeing.
A culture that promotes primary values tends toward satisfaction of innate needs. This means to get one’s way is absent. On the other hand a true flat group seeks to empower all within.
Nothing substitutes for a true, protective bubble of community. Like an incubator we support the person not the path. We respect the man, not the plan. We have trust in their good common sense ability to find their own higher power and dignity. They no longer need the family culture. Rather the culture needs them.
For an entrepreneur can be moving to Montana and surviving to fulfill one’s dream of happiness for one’s self, but the family will no longer have their presence unless they stay in the protective bubble of community to help each other satisfy their own autonomy.
In our family, each person’s dream is different. We are not driven by one’s path of personal dream fulfillment but rather by living one’s fulfillment, such that real genuine fulfillment is the drive of every family member. That is a successful family. It takes an entrepreneur to get there. It takes a culture of entrepreneurs to get there. So our family culture supports acknowledgement. We do not offer advice. We share relevant resolution stories, because there will be adversity. In spite of every curve ball that life gives, in our family we will be loved none the less. And we will be there for each other and we will persevere with patience and kindness.
There will be gratitude. We will be grateful.
Our real treasure is our flat culture.
My grandfather Joseph Numa Liautaud (1878-1957) had a secret. The letter C for colored on his birth certificate constrained him in New Orleans. He could pass for white as could his wife, his family and two sisters. So in 1910 to 1912 they migrated from New Orleans to Chicago and passed for white. In Chicago they lived on Roscoe Street which is 3400 North, far distant from the “dangerous” and “blighted” area of the Black Belt.
This move had its price on the second generation. Family lore has my father working since 4th grade. Being the oldest child he had to work because his father was a displaced cigar maker from New Orleans without work.
The point of my father’s story was this. They had a secret. They were very clannish. They never spoke ill about each other. They rallied around materialism to get ahead. My father was 50 before he had saved enough money to start his own business. Not enough is written or understood about the tragedy of pulling one’s self up from the boot straps. My father never had a normal childhood.
Who has? And what is “normal?”
I would say normal means satisfying innate needs. For without “normalcy” we have chaos. The only way to overcome chaos is by changing family behavior that causes chaos. That is where primary values come in.
My parents considered myself to be a thoughtful child. I would say and do things that pleased and amazed them. It is that kind of “normalcy” that drives a person on. One time I was told by my father that I was too young “to go to seed.” By this he meant I was to focus on earning a living. So I did that. And in my spare time I pursued my avocation of sense of community. Before my father died, he wished me well in my avocation called Loquate. By then I had sidestepped the vulnerability of poverty. I was well off. Yet I was not driven by money. We lived a good life. That is my story.
But to this day, I still seek to overcome what I call family behavior; good and bad practices learned at a young age which become habit. In fact, I have found so much junk in my life that it is a wonder my wife has stayed with me, or my children, or my friends, or my extended family, or my business associates. Perhaps I have succeeded somewhat at age 80 for my niece has told me recently that she has seen much change in me in the last 5 years.
Actually, the way I see it is this. I glorify my higher power by improving myself. But I do not seek ego worship. I seek kind, caring and patient practices with all around me. For that is how I honor my God Who loves me so much.
Perhaps my family is evolving. Is yours?
Every family system either evolves toward satisfying innate needs of all around them or they perish. It is that simple. There is no motivation and no wellness without personal change. And with personal change satisfying innate needs comes high motivation and mental health. That is because we are built a certain way.
If we are not true to that way of a protective bubble of community we blight ourselves and all those around us in the pursuit of things like money, power or influence. For that is pure ego worship. Instead perhaps my family is affected by my changed behavior. If my example inspires, my family will tend toward being a flat group. No one person is held up above another. We are genuine. We return. We stay with family.
